Fxjr had to sign a driving contract complete with clearly defined rules and consequences for about every situtation we could come up with. His finanacial responsibilites for insurance and gas are included, too. I'd be glad to e-mail you an example or include it here if anyone's interested. Believe me, it's scarey thinking of him out there driving on his own, but you gotta let 'em go some time. You just have to hope you've instilled enough maturity in them so they make it through w/o getting killed or hurting somebody else in a wreck.
Fx, Get Jr a cell phone if he doesn't already have one. My daughter calls to check in whenever she leaves where ever she was and checks in when she arrives (did that make sense?). We've limited her to one friend in the car unless she has prior approval from us. She is also not allowed to use the cell phone while driving, though we have had her friends call us from the passenger seat.
The contract you have with Jr sounds like a good idea, we have a verbal one with my daughter. She knows what is expected and what the penalties are (and this includes grades in school).
Good luck and don't worry too much about all those gray hairs, they have stuff to hide them.
SEATBELTS!!! I'm sure HE'S smart enough. But at least one of his friends is gonna be too cool to where his. I got my license at 17 and I never wore mine, my friends didn't either. One fateful night in '93, about 3 months after getting my license I was driving through a unfamiliar rural area with 3 friends in the car. None of us were wearing our seatbelts. Well, as I cruised through an intersection going about 35mph, I noticed headlights to my left coming at me fast. Thats when I caught that stop sign in the corner of my right eye. "Oh F---." Anyway the blazer hit right at my door going 65mph. On impact, the rear drivers side door flew open, and at some point while my car slid and the Blazer rolled through the intersection, my best friend was ejected from the car. I broke my scapula and my head was cut, but I was fine. My friend, on the other hand, was flown to U. of Penn, most of his ribs were broke and he had one lung removed. He was also cut up pretty bad. He probably would have been fine if he was wearing his seatbelt. Everyone else was a little bruised but nothing too serious. It was a mess, worst day of my entire life. I thought I had killed my freind. Thank god he made it. It was in all the papers and on the news that night. I got sued by everyone. Needless to say, he's still my best freind to this day and we ALWAYS wear our seatbelts.
Maybe let FXJR read my story and it will permenatly etch -SEATBELTS- into his brain.
Good advice. He'd already been in two wrecks (with other people driving) this year. He's always worn his seatbelt and thank goodness he was this time. He would have been hurt for sure when he got t-boned the last time.