The pcv valve is open when there is vacuum. When you are wide open or nearly wide open (lots of load), there should be no vacuum...which means that the PCV closes. Then where does the crankcase pressure go? Yep...out the breather. That's why you get oil in there.
Most PCV systems use a valve in one valve cover which goes to vacuum. When under light load and high vacuum, the vapors are drawn into the air intake and burned. On the other end, there is normally a hose that runs from the air box or air cleaner. The air cleaner will normally be under a slight vacuum (not a lot but there will always be a little pressure drop) when under wide open throttle. This pressure differential betwen the crankcase and the air box/cleaner will cause the vapors to be pulled into the air cleaner and burned. Take a look at most OEM setups to see what I am talking about. The factory designed them pretty good...well...unless you have a F150 Lightning (2nd generation).
Also, if you have a breather on one side, make sure it has a filter. It can and will pull lots of dirt into the crankcase.